Sharing is NOT Caring

 

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I love sharing pictures of RJ on Facebook. I have lots of friends and family who aren’t close by and they get a glimpse into how fast he’s growing through pictures.  *Plus, I like to show him off;)*  However, I think I will have to stop.  I feel it’s a crutch for some family not to be active participants in his life and have real relationships with him.  I feel that “liking” and commenting on various pictures is being equated as a relationship or that somehow puts them in the know of his day to day life.  Maybe it’s for show or their own conscience. I have lots of tag requests that I’ve ignored.  Mainly because I don’t want to get notices about random people I don’t know and their friends about comments on pictures of my child.  Also, I don’t feel like people should be able to put a picture of my baby on their page and perpetuate a loving and close relationship with him that doesn’t exist.  However, I can’t stop the pictures from being “shared” on their pages.   I find it ironic the lengths that are gone to to put his picture on a Facebook page, but not to make face-to-face contact with him.  o_O

I’ve taken breaks from posting pictures of him before.  This was in hope that the lack of frequent pics would force people to connect with him in real ways.  That did not happen.  To save my 0 to pissed gauge from setting up shop on the pissed side, I’m going to stick with IG and this here blog for sharing photos of my baby.  It makes no sense for me to continue to post pics there and continue to be pissed when the behavior continues.

My hope is that they understand and get what they’re missing.  I hope they make real efforts to be active participants in my child’s life.  I hope they realize for that to happen it has to go both ways.  We can’t and will not always come go to them.  I’m a firm believer in people making time do what they want.  I will continue to do what I can to facilitate a relationship, but I will not go out of my way.  RJ is too young to understand and feel slighted.  However, I’m a grown woman and protective mother.  I will not subject my son to situations where I feel he is not being appreciated for the awesome kid that he is.  Sometimes I don’t know if I want to cry for what he doesn’t understand or tell someone the F**k off! Right now, I’m exhaling slowly and removing myself and my pictures from the equation.

 

This now ends this rant.

4 Comments

  • Reply Kita July 9, 2013 at 4:58 pm

    Tell them one person I know has a disclaimer on her page everytime she shares a picture on FB she says if you use my picture you better have done something for my child or I will find you and it won’t be good. That’s why I took and blocked all of my hubs family off of my page because you will not share pics and take pictures when you can’t even buy my kids a pack of underwear please now you got me upset….

    • Reply Jenni July 10, 2013 at 9:52 pm

      These family members will buy him things. I just want them to make an effort to get to know him.

  • Reply Nellie @ Brooklyn Active Mama July 10, 2013 at 10:02 am

    It’s a weird thing that FB. It makes for a very good story but the real truth is hidden behind likes and shares. Your son is so gorgeous. If they can’t appreciate that without a social network then chuck up the deuces!

    • Reply Jenni July 10, 2013 at 10:37 pm

      Thanks so much, Nellie:)

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