Pay It Forward…

A couple of weeks ago, RJ and I stopped by Publix to pick up a few packages.  While in the checkout line, I realized it was taking quite awhile for the lady in front of me to wrap up her purchase.  Her groceries had already been scanned and bagged so I wasn’t sure what the hold up was.  Then, I actually started to eavesdrop, pay attention to what was transpiring between the cashier and the woman.  I overheard the woman say “ok well you can take that off.” Then, she proceeded to dig around in her purse, while the cashier waited patiently.  After watching her dig in her purse for money she, I and everyone else in the line knew she didn’t have, I asked her how much she needed to complete her purchase.  The woman didn’t answer and continued to dig, but the cashier immediately said, “$2 dollars!” I handed the cashier the two dollars.  The lady, obviously embarrassed, was very thankful.  I told her not worry about it, she left and I completed my purchase.  My thoughts were it wasn’t that big of deal, she was really holding up the line and I’ve been in similar situations and one day may find myself in that same situation again.

As I finished getting RJ and the groceries loaded into the car, the woman pulls up in front of my car in her own car. *An older model big body Benz…yes, it may have been wrong of me to take note of the make, sure it was old, but my inner judgmental self perked up and took notice.*   There is a bank right next to the store, so my first thoughts are that she got some money from the ATM and wanted to give me the $2 back. *That’s not what I expected or wanted, but what else could she want?!* So, as she approaches, I put my window down.  Again, she proceeds to tell me that she was really sorry that happened and she was very thankful for my help.  She wasn’t handing the money back, so my inner bitch was like, “it was $2 not $500, you already said thank you, can I go now?!'”  Then, she invites me to some direct selling party she’s throwing at her home.  She asks for my name and email address and says she would love for me to come…. WTH?!!   So, I give her money to help her pay for her food and her thank you is to invite me to her home so I can give  her even MORE of my money?!  Ummm I don’t think so!  *What is it about me that makes strangers want to invite me to their homes? Remember this?* Anyway, I then think how successful is she at this so called business if she doesn’t have $2? I mean I can understand not have cash, but no debit, or credit card to cover $2? *Sorry, that was my inner judgmental/bitch combo.*  She caught me off guard, I mean would you have expected her to say that?!  So, I gave her my email address…knowing it will go to my junk mail and headed home.

I wanted to share my experience because I found it quite odd.  Not odd that she needed the $2, but odd that she then wanted me to come to her house to sell me things.  If I ever find myself in that situation again, I would definitely offer to help if I can.  Hubby and I give to strangers throughout the year through various programs.  However, most of our giving is done anonymously.  I also plan to get RJ involved in the giving as he grows and gets older.  I don’t know if this is a scam this woman runs to seek out people she thinks will have money to buy her direct selling merchandise, or if she really didn’t have the money?  I hope it’s the latter.  However, just like I’ve learned when and if you lend people money, when you pay it forward, you should never give money or items you will miss.  So, I say pay it forward, if you can, but be wary of women who invite total strangers to their homes for direct selling parties;)

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  • Reply Say Something Kita (@Kreative10) August 7, 2012 at 8:51 am

    Hmmm let’s see she probably is really broke and figured you had money to give so why not come to her party and give your money to her so she can have money. I give when I have but to invite a stranger to a party that’s just to much.

    • Reply Jenni August 7, 2012 at 8:59 am

      Exactly, it wasn’t the giving that was a problem for me, it was the invite. Strange.

  • Reply Amber Wright (@mrswrightsays) August 7, 2012 at 11:58 am

    Yeah, I got nothin’ with this one! LOL It is truly better to give than to receive…and walk away with a blank stare! Ha!

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