How Do You Make Friends?

A while back I took a typical trip to the nail salon for a pedicure and some “me” time.  While I waited, I overheard eavesdropped on a conversation between a nail tech and a female customer.  The nail tech was of Asian decent the customer,Hispanic. *I’m only specifying this because it may have some bearing in the point of this post…may.*

Anyway, the customer is saying something that was really annoying me at the time but escapes me now. *Obviously, it’s not important to the story or I would remember!* So, I deduced she wasn’t someone I would get along with.  Of course, it didn’t matter if she was or not because we were in the nail salon and I’ve never made an actual friendship connection in nail salon!

Fast forward to me sitting in the massage chair having my feet pampered.  The female customer ends up in the chair beside me.  Our techs are hilariously funny and goofy.  While joking around with them, I realize the female customer has a sense of humor and is quite nice.  In between the awful jokes the techs are telling, I’m playing Scrabble on my iPhone.  My the female customer’s tech asks, what I’m doing and I tell him.  I’m floored to find out he has NEVER heard of Scrabble! I almost fall out of my comfy chair when the female customer admits the same! I proceed to show them the screen and explain the game. I tell them the game is an American classic and they have to play at least once.  That gets the female customer to tell me that she and her friends have game nights often where they play cards and board games, etc. *At this point I’m really not understanding why she’s never heard of Scrabble:|*  Then it happened!

She says she must get my cell number before we leave the salon and invites me to her home for game night!

Ok call me crazy, but I don’t randomly give my number to strangers I’ve met for 20 minutes in the nail salon. *Granted, I’ve given my number to guys in clubs, bars, airports, but I was a 20 something then and that’s besides the point!* I really thought an invite to her home was a bit forward for the start of an impromptu friendship! Could we start with getting together for coffee at Starbucks, lunch at Panera or at least see each other again at the nail salon?!  I had no clue where her house was, what her living situation was, what kind of friends she had… or if her idea of “game night” was to sacrifice a seemingly innocent, 30 something, black female with perfectly polished toes! *Too much?! Ok!* Also, have you noticed I haven’t used her name? Well, it’s not for anonymity purposes, it’s because I have NO CLUE what it is!!! How do invite someone to your home and they don’t even know your name?!

Maybe this is a common thing in her culture.  Has being born and raised in America made me so skeptical I can ‘t  even take a nice gesture for face value?

That may very well be the case. However, needless to say, I smiled nicely and said “sure”, then quietly forgot to give her my number as I snuck out of the salon.

Please know, I make friends with new people I meet all of the time. I’m a regular social butterfly! However, they are usually people I encounter through friends I already have.  You know, my friend pool! That way I know someone I trust and love has already vetted them for instances of crazy, deranged, psycho tendancies:)

What do you think? Did I totally overreact?  Would you have given her your number and gone to game night?! Do you have steps to making friends with with people outside of your friend pool?


  • Reply Say Something Kita (@Kreative10) May 24, 2012 at 8:02 pm

    Yeah I am skeptical of giving people I know my real number. I usually give people my house number first then if I vibe with the person I give out my cell number. I feel my cell is only for personal people who know me because my cell goes everywhere with me. I don’t think you overreacted you can’t trust everyone these days although she may have just been being nice. Just like one of my sons classmate invited me to her sons birthday party at her house I did not go because I did not know her and I felt uncomfortable.

  • Reply glossedmimii May 25, 2012 at 12:22 am

    I don’t!! I have met people in random places and we exchange business cards. At times it has advanced from there in instances but not frequently. Some people are just very friendly and know no stranger. But in the back of my head I would be thinking are they going to try to rob me when I come play cards! Hey folks are crazy these days. You never know!!

  • Reply Rose's Daughter May 27, 2012 at 9:28 am

    You didn’t overreact at all!! It might be a cultural thing, but still. I might give you my email, but that’s it. My phone number is sacred. 🙂

  • Reply Rose's Daughter May 27, 2012 at 9:30 am

    Maybe it’s a cultural thing? I don’t think you over reacted at all. Phone numbers are sacred!

  • Reply Cam - Bibs & Baubles May 29, 2012 at 2:59 pm

    i don’t think you overreacted. i don’t mind so much giving out my email but the phone number is another thing altogether.

  • Reply MrsTDJ May 30, 2012 at 10:31 am

    LMAO! This post has be cracking up. No ma’am, you did NOT overreact. I’d have slid out too if possible. If she had parted her lips again to ask for my number, I’d have offered up the email address.

  • Reply Pepper Tan June 7, 2012 at 11:22 pm

    Can’t blame you. I would’ve reacted the same way. I’m pretty wary of strangers. You know how it is in this day and age. There are other safer ways of making friends 🙂

    I’m a Scrabble addict too, by the way 🙂

    • Reply Jenni June 17, 2012 at 4:06 pm

      Ladies, thanks for assuring me that I’m not crazy!LOL
      @ Pepper Tan thanks for stopping by,reading, and commenting on my blog!

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