After giving it much thought and consideration, I’ve decided to grow out my relaxer. This is a very big deal for me, as it for many black women.
I remember how excited I was when I got my first relaxer. I think I was about 11 or 12. I smiled the entire time. I was finally free of sitting in front of the stove on Sunday mornings, praying my mom wouldn’t burn me with the hot comb. I could get my hair wet and there would be no serious repercussions! LOL In the years that would follow that virgin relaxer, I recall times of sticking through the burn so my hair would be as straight as possible. Yeah, there were chemical burns but my hair was tight!
The past year and a half, my hair and I have been in a sort of struggle. I gave her some color and she decide to break off. I neglected her for a couple of months, and she decide to give me two bald spots!LOL During our struggles, quite a few things happened: We found a new hair stylist (who happens to specialize in natural & healthy hair), a friend started her own “natural” journey raved about it and I stop taking birth control (for religious reasons and just because I had been taking them over half of my life). I mention the birth control because the pills and my relaxers were the two greatest unnatural things that I put in my body, knowingly, daily and monthly basis. I started to wonder what the lasting effects of both, would be on my body.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m freaked out about getting my hair wet, the impending Summer humidity and what I’m going to do when I start working out again! LOL However, I’ve seen my hair go through changes over the years and I just want it full and healthy. I use the think “natural hair” meant afros, dreads, twitsts and braids, as many people still do. No, you won’t see me with an Angela Davis afro but I’m looking forward to the versatility that my hair will have. I not going to say I’ll never get a relaxer again but I’m over it for now. I hoping, at the end of it all, my hair will forgive my past faults and she will be my friend again!
*January 7, 2010 – The date of my last relaxer and the start of the journey…*