Last week, I came across an incredible job opportunity. I wasn’t searching but literally happened upon it by accident. It would have allowed more family time, some semblance of a “normal” work schedule for the first time in my career and the chance to do something I love. It came down to me an one other person and the ability to speak fluent Spanish, which I don’t, the other person does so they got the spot. Though, I am disappointed,they offered me another job, but only part time. We aren’t in a position where I can only work part time, so I would have to keep my current full time job in addition to the part time. This would mean I would rarely, if EVER see my son or husband during the week. Also, because I work weekends from time to time, with my current job, it wouldn’t be a guarantee I would see them then.
So, I have to choose my family over career. Not a hard choice. There is no way I could, consciously, make a decision that would take me away from my son five or six days a week, especially if I didn’t have to. Just the thought of it breaks my heart. Though, I’m disappointed at the outcome, I have to believe this was not meant for me. Maybe the next opportunity will be, until then, I’m thankful for the job I have and the time I get to spend with those I love the most.
Speaking of those I love the most, I’m sure many of you remember the date night post. Well, that prompted us to reevaluate our decision to keep RJ home with us. We don’t have any immediate family in the area an our closets friends are at least an hour away. Though, we absolutely love keeping him at home, we feel this will be good for him and us. So, we have decided to enroll RJ in daycare. We feel he needs to interact with other adults and kids. Also, we want to make this transition while he is still young. So, we found a good daycare with a good curriculum and small class sizes. It is a church daycare and we like the fact that they will incorporate some religion in the curriculum. Due to my second shift schedule and the fact that I sometimes work on weekends, he will not go all day. I will go back to my forty hour week and drop him off on my way to work and Hubby will pick him up when he gets off work. This is similar to what we do now, expect there be daycare time in between the swap. All in all he will probably only be there about four hours each day, more if I have an appointment or have to go into work early. Ultimately, this plan gives both of us quality time with him and he will also get to socialize with others.
This experience has made it clear what my priorities are. My family comes first. Subjecting myself to both a part time an a full time job, with the hopes of getting a foot in the door, doesn’t hold a candle to taking my son to the park, reading him a book, hearing him laugh or just seeing him while he’s awake. So, I choose the latter and continue to have faith that one day I’ll get the opportunity of a lifetime and I won’t have to choose between family and career.
Have you ever had choose between family and career or daycare and keeping your child at home? Was it a hard choice or a no brainer?