Sometimes the hardest thing for a person to do is to let go. We’ve all experienced it in some aspect of our lives from relationships to careers. I know several people, including myself, who are currently in the process of letting go of something or someone in hopes of allowing a sense of renewal or calm into our lives. The question is how do you know when it’s time to let go?
Months ago I listened to the first episode of the podcast Making Oprah. Twenty-two minutes into that episode, Oprah said something that made me cry as I listened and still nearly brings me to tears when I think about it. She said,”Everybody knows that there is a time that comes in your life, when where you are is no longer where you are supposed to be.” In other words, something deep within you lets you know when to move on. I think that statement makes me cry because I know it’s true and I’m finally ready. That’s the key to letting go. You have to be ready. No matter how much can see it or tell us, it doesn’t happen until our mind, body and spirit are one and we act on it. Sometimes we don’t want to let go because of love for or devotion to family members or friends even when they show no signs of love or devotion to us. Sometimes we don’t let go because we are simply afraid of the unknowns and the what ifs.
I learned a long time ago that there are times when you just have let go of family and friends. This doesn’t mean you don’t love them or wish them any ill will. It means you choose yourself. It means you choose your calm. You should not have to live in a constant state of pissivity, because you love your family or the person you’ve been friends with for years. Loving from a distance is still love.
There have been instances where I have removed people from my life and through my own growth and healing I was able to allow them back in and have healthy relationships. It happens.
I’m still working through overcoming fear of the unknown. Hello, my name is Jennifer and I need exactly how things will turn out and if the outcome is good, I’m in! Please and thank you. However, that’s just not life. So, I’m working on learning to follow my happy even if that means I have to let go and face my fear of the unknown.
How you do you know when it’s time to let go? Is the process easy or hard for you?